Ending a relationship can feel devastating, especially if you still have strong feelings for the person you’ve lost. It’s even worse if you didn’t want the relationship to end, and your partner did.
Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise. It may be that the person you were with is not really right for you. Worse, it could be that the person you were with was actually bad for you, and in this case, the grief you feel gets pretty complicated.
This article is about that last scenario, and I chose this subject because it comes up a lot in therapy. Someone comes in and they’re in a lot of emotional pain because their boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse has left the relationship. Often they’re emotionally worn down and feeling worthless, or not good enough, and just want their partner to come back.