Author: Barbara Frazier

7 Tips to Improve Your Communication Skills

It would seem that communication should be easy and simple, but of course it’s not. It’s often quite complex due to the many layers of messaging that are present when someone speaks. Even a single sentence can be complicated.

The first layer is the obvious one. The words. You have a thought or feeling you want to get across, and you choose the words to do that. If the subject is pretty concrete, meaning it’s about something that isn’t ambiguous or up for interpretation, then the communication’s probably quite clear.

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How to Get on Top of Your Finances

Financial stress is debilitating! It can affect your mood, your relationships, your ability to take care of yourself, and your self-esteem. If it’s chronic, it can result in ongoing anxiety and depression.

It’s important to get on top of it, even if you’re feeling defeated and think there’s nothing you can do about it. You can.

The first step is to examine your money habits and see if you can get them under better control. I’m going to take you through a process to do that. Then we can talk about how you might go about increasing your income.

The worst thing you can do is to do nothing. The lack of control is a sure way to keep you in a state of chronic stress that undermines everything else in your life.

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Why You Should Stop Looking at Your Partner’s Phone and What To Do Instead

Sometimes I think the worst thing that’s happened to us is the invention of cell phones.

Then again, I don’t think I could live without one now. How about you? Could you live without yours? I’m guessing not.

But that’s really not the subject of this article. The subject is about a practice that’s become quite common for couples that involves cell phones, and that’s taking a peek at your partner’s phone calls and texts, sometimes overtly, but most of time very covertly meaning secretly.

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11 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparing yourself to others is like stepping into a black hole. You can always find someone who can outdo you in some way or other so that you end up on the bottom.

There’s nothing good or healthy about this. It’s an exercise to confirm that you’re not good enough.

Here’s how to stop doing this, and what to do instead.

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Atomic Habits

Atomic Habits by James Clear

My favorite non-fiction read of 2019 was Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear. If you haven’t read it yet, go get it today in whatever your favorite mode of reading may be, and read it! I chose Kindle which is mine, and scarfed it up!

Let’s start with 3 ideas that are included in the first several chapters:

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Essentialism by Greg McKeown

I recently had the pleasure of reading Essentialism by Greg McKeown. Actually the full title with subtitle is Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.

McKeown’s premise is that we can’t do it all, and the idea that we can is simply false and leads us down the rabbit hole in a maze of diversionary paths that keep us from doing anything well.

By saying yes to everyone, taking on everything, trying to please all parties, and kidding ourselves that we can always add just one more thing, we end up not doing those things that are most important to us. Instead we diffuse our energy, our will power, and even our interest.

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Are You Someone People Can Count On?

Dependability is an underrated personal quality. I say that because so many of us have difficulty either developing it or sustaining it.

You might even think that you’re very dependable, but in reality you’re not.

It’s easy to get distorted when thinking about this because in our hearts, we may feel as though we can be counted on, especially when it is important. The “important” part is where the distortion takes place.

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10 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Relationship

When you’re trying to improve your relationship with your partner, it’s easy to focus on the negative stuff. You see all problems that need to be addressed, and your attention naturally goes there.

But . . . if you’re always focused on the problems, chances are you may be increasing the divide between you. There has to be an equal, if not greater emphasis, on what’s right!

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Why Meditation is the Most Important Habit

Of all the tools we have to help us navigate life, the mind is the first and most important.

Everything we do, think, feel, and remember is facilitated by our minds. It’s our starting point, our perceiver, our interpreter, and ultimately has the last word on how we experience our lives.

The paradox is that the mind can be an amazing tool to help us actualize our desires and goals, but it can also be our worst enemy.

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So-Hum Meditation Technique

Meditation is a life-changing habit that has cumulative effects over time. There are many types of meditation, and I encourage you to explore them all and decide what works best for you.

If you’ve never tried it before, you might find this technique simple and effective as a starter. It can also be practiced long-term. Either way,  it’s easy and will get you engaged and on your way.

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Consistency is the Key!

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