One of my favorite lines in the book Atomic Habits by James Clear is:
You become your habits.
That may not be news to you, but I’m guessing most of us don’t really stop and think about it, or give it the credence it deserves.
We think more in terms of goals, achievements, and outcomes. The focus is on “end points” instead of “the process” to get to them.
The problem with that kind of thinking is that it usually stops at the desire stage. You want to lose weight, get a new job, go back to school, lower your blood pressure, find a new partner, or whatever the case may be, but you don’t have a system in place to get there.